I’d rather live in my own little world…
How I chose to live my life
I have been heavily criticised for having an optimistic view
on life, particularly about people but I’ve learnt over the years that I won’t
have a bad opinion of someone unless they specifically do something awful to
me. Don’t get me wrong I am no pushover and when things go wrong you will know
about it but I won’t be swayed by other people’s opinions and experiences. In addition I don't want to judge people by their looks, the colour of their skin, their religion or the way they live their lives. Judgment for me is based on how people treat you.
I think I have my life sussed now. My outlook is quite
simple – treat people with respect and be fair and honest. If people can’t
respect that then get rid of them. Life for me is not about material things and
who has more or less than me. It is about experiences and creating experiences.
If you can manage to create good experiences that provide fabulous memories and
they outweigh the negative experiences, I think you will have life sorted. In
addition, it is how you react to those negative experiences. I don’t over
analyse the bad things in life but instead, look for the positives that come
out of those negatives. You may all think it is ridiculous to look at life this
way but what is the alternative? Too many people want to have a negative impact
on other people’s lives. If you let the doubters drag you down it is YOUR life
that is affected not theirs. So if all else fails, kill them with kindness. You
never know you may even turn them into better people, it’s worth a try. It is
amazing how social media can be a true reflection of a person’s actual
personality without them even realising it.
This philosophy is the base of my whole life from work to
family life. My life with the boys is about creating a positive and happy
outlook because let’s face it’s tough out there. They know the true realities in life too through our great debates and discussions. I think the balance is right but only time will tell that. You can’t live your children’s
lives but you can help them to make the right decisions and become a productive
and valuable member of society. Parenting for me is all about support and
providing support during their discovery of life. Saturday I drove to Barrow to
see Wes play for the Sheffield scholarship. It was a long, tiring day and I am
still fighting a foot infection (from swimming! Who said exercise was healthy?)
but I would not have missed it for the world. It is great to see teenagers
committed to hard work and sport. I am in awe of them all for following their
dreams. My role in this is to support Wes’s quest and that’s all. He has grown
so much during this whole experience. I am here to offer him advice and
practical solutions but it is his motivation and work ethic that will get him
the life he wants and deserves.
The trouble is you will come across people that are insecure in their own lives so will try their best to derail you and put you down. It is in your hands whether you let them do that. My advice is simple - DON'T. We are all beautiful in our own ways, just some people don't see it in themselves yet.
The trouble is you will come across people that are insecure in their own lives so will try their best to derail you and put you down. It is in your hands whether you let them do that. My advice is simple - DON'T. We are all beautiful in our own ways, just some people don't see it in themselves yet.
LeTour Yorkshire
Congratulations to Gary Verity and Welcome to Yorkshire staff and LeTourYorkshire. It has been a great success but us Yorkshire folk always knew it would be. Now, can you please get the World Rally Championship GB rally back to Yorkshire please for all us petrol heads? Maybe a couple of days off first.
Writing
I hope the author talk I gave to 125 Year eight children at
Wetherby High School inspired at least one young person to follow their dreams.
After the questions they asked, they gave me new impetus to writing and
reminded me of why I changed my career and followed this new path. Inspiring
others can certainly help keep your own inspiration alive.
This week is a significant week in our house. I have lots of
work to do to finish Beyond the Lies but I am very excited to write it. I am
not far off completing the first draft, FINALLY! Once completed, the editing
will begin and that is the fun part, NOT! When I say not far off, I am probably
talking another three weeks or so but anything worth having is worth waiting
for, right?
However, the most significant part of this week is my second road trip, this time to Gloucester on Thursday for the final scholarship game. I have loved watching Wes grow and learn over the past ten months and I am so proud of him. Then we find out what next. Whatever the future holds, he has demonstrated such maturity and commitment and I want to burst with pride.
Paul’s Fundraising
You can give on Paul’s Justgiving page for the Sick Childrens Trust and the Rugby League Benevolent Fund at http://www.justgiving.com/teams/givingplentytotwenty You can donate through JustGiving or text SICK66 £1 TO 70070 or text TRYZ77 £1 to 70070 (or more if you would like).
A quick thank you to all my twitter followers on both the book (@BeyondthePast1) and my account (@CharlespR2D2) – pop over and say hello.
Okay, Beyond the Lies needs my attention. Have a great week. This time next week I hope we can all look back and see what a fabulous week it had been. Make it count.
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