Blog following my new, strangely exciting meandering journey through life as an Author.1st 3 chapters of my debut novel, Beyond the Past,are available FREE (hard word to say for a Yorkshire lass!) www.pamcharles.com. The opinions are my honest assessment of life as I see it. Don't worry if you don't agree, I respect your opinions too. Don't you just love democracy, respect the freedom of speech & protect honesty & integrity. Shortlisted for the National UK Blog Awards 2015.
Do you know why I love books so much? Because each one of us
can read the same book and come out the end of it with a very different
perception, opinion and experience. And why do you think that is? I think it is
because of our own perception of life, our experience and our outlook on life
itself. That’s my own personal opinion. Let me know what you think.
It is like life really and I have written about this a few
times now – how our experiences in life can give us a ‘slant’, opinion or
perception of life issues. I absolutely know I am a different person than I was
twelve months ago. I am much tougher now and I think I understand life more. I
am totally amazed how many adults do not understand the difference between being
truthful and being abusive. I suppose it comes down to the contents of my blog
a couple of weeks ago – integrity, dignity and common decency. You can throw
poor education into the mix too.
It’s great to see that Twitter have improved their blocking
service this week, giving us all peace of mind whilst we are online.Caio #Twittertrolls
This week has been a bit of a nightmare because of the pressure the
stormy weather puts on my ears. Challenging! I always
know when I am about to have an episode. My head becomes really fuzzy and even
the simple tasks become difficult. I forget what I am doing and find it hard to
concentrate. This usually lasts a day but this week I had three days of it.
After the fuzziness, comes the dizziness. I consider myself one of the lucky
ones because I have only ever fallen over once and that was pre diagnosis. I
take extra care during this period but it is very unnerving. My confidence slips to an all time low and then I get really frustrated with myself, start wondering why I am even bothering! But I do because I don't want to give in to IT and I want the boys to see that, even in adversity, you can be strong enough to overcome anything. Luckily the 'dizzy day' was
yesterday (Saturday) so I stayed in with the boys. All in all I have done
pretty well this week, only physically losing two hours because I had to lay
down. The rest of the time I have muddled through and managed to get some work
I know my condition is getting worse. I am waiting for
another hearing test. Whatever the prognosis, I could be in a lot worse a
The Menieres Society’s facebook
page has kept me entertained during this time. Reading other peoples’
experiences and life stories has helped. In addition, the society has launched
an awareness campaign, the #TreeSelfie:
This is my #TreeSelfie – I hate selfies. I blame the short
arms !! (That’s my excuse anyway).
Your support would be amazing. If you also tag me on social
media and will share and RT your posts.
I was asked this week if I have made any mistakes in writing.The answer is categorically YES.BUT isn’t it better to make mistakes than not
try at all? I certainly think it is. I also know that, thanks to lots of fellow
authors and lots of other inspiring people, I am developing as an author each
time I lift up my pen. Like with any new profession, you are going to make
mistakes but you learn from them. Looking back, I would have done things
differently but I didn’t know then what I know now. That’s life, isn’t it?
The best decision I have made is to connect with other
authors through social media and other Menieres sufferers too. Both sets of
people have really helped me to develop and understand my new career path and
my life. Very often you feel alone and when people are permanently beating you
with a proverbial stick, you start to doubt yourself. It is only natural.
However, it is much easier to continue on your chosen path if you know there
are other people going through exactly the same process as yourself. Their
words of wisdom and encouragement are priceless. They have taught me that you
will receive criticism, some justified, some not so but don’t let it stop you
from achieving your dreams. You will know which criticism is given for the
right reasons and which has ulterior motives. I have learned to turn negativity
into positive energy - to be better, bolder and braver. I’m really proud the
boys have caught onto this too and it will help them through their lives. Don’t
shy away from criticism, embrace it.
I have decided to give myself a break this year. I will be
doing some writing but from the 19th December until the New Year I
am going to spend time relaxing with the boys. We have been through so much
this year and literally haven’t stopped. It’s a good time to chill and recharge
my batteries ready for the onslaught of 2015.
Have a great week everyone. I am looking forward to the schools breaking up on Friday and the church service Friday morning. Stay safe everyone x
The first three chapters of Beyond the Past are posted on my website to give
you a taster
I suppose settling for a life you don’t love would be the
safest, most sensible and ‘grown up’ thing to do, or so we are led to
believe. LIFE IS FOR LIVING. Opportunities don’t just present themselves, you
need to make them appear. Day to day life is so incredibly hectic right now –
training three times a week in Sheffield, writing, promoting books, writing
websites, blogging and Christmas preparations and not to mention cooking,
cleaning, bills, running the house – you see what I mean! It’s funny but the
more I have to do, the more I am inclined to knuckle down and work hard. Less
jobs means I postpone them. I never knew how important time managements skills
would be but time is the most precious commodity.
In fact, this is the clock from my living
room.It is wearing the Cat in the Hat, hat from Dr Zeuss and every
time I look at it, it reminds me of the Grinch - mean, taking time away from me! (Yes this is how my mind really works!). Time is definitely not my
friend at the moment but I do make the most of every minute I have, which is
probably why by Friday evening I am on my knees!!
The beauty of writing is it can be done anywhere and I do
it, ANYWHERE! People often ask me how on earth I can write in noisy places such
as the café at Sheffield University Sports Ground or crowded pubs. In truth, I
switch off. If you talk to me when I am writing and I don’t respond, it is more
than likely because I have zoned out. I do it all the time. For goodness sake,
the boys play rugby in the house around me so I’m used to noise and dodging
flying rugby balls!
This week I started writing my third book – THIRD. Can you
believe it? It has a working title, ‘You Can’t Have It all’ but it will change,
I know it will, because I’m not struck on it! Another crime
thriller. It is DCI Fisher and DS Davies’ first case after uncovering the truth
behind Mark Smith’s tormented life. DCI Fisher is awaiting a decision on yet
another promotion and it is putting a strain on his and Phillipa’s personal and
professional relationship. It will be set in Wetherby, the police station is
based there but will feature lots of Yorkshire places. There will be a few
Being on my own raising the boys and keeping us afloat
single-handedly while trying to establish myself as a writer means I don’t get
the opportunity to sit down and reflect on how far we have come in the last
twelve months. It’s only when I am asked to sit and talk about it that I
realise what we have achieved this year. On Friday I was a guest on Tempo FM’s
Women’s Hour. Leading up to the event I had my usual nerves but honestly, I don’t
know why I worried. I had a ball. Bairbre McKendrick was brilliant and made me
feel so at ease that I quite literally forgot we were on air. I normally don’t
like talking about myself, much prefer to talk about the boys but it was easy
to discuss things thanks to Bairbre’s flawless interviewing techniques. I had
an absolute ball. It was my first experience in a radio studio and I do hope it
will not be the last.
Driving home, I had the opportunity to reflect on this year.
It was only eleven months ago when Beyond the Past was released into the world.
ONLY ELEVEN MONTHS! In that time, Wes turned sixteen, passed his GCSE’s, earned
his place in Sheffield Eagles academy and has started his A levels with one eye
on a University place. Lucas has turned eight, loves his football and scored a
hat trick two weeks ago (which we are all so proud of, no more so than himself),
surpassed all expectations in reading and Maths and started writing his own
book. I have had my FIRST ever book published, designed and launched a website,
had an official book signed (courtesy of Sant Angelos in Wetherby), had
articles in local papers, appeared on local radio and launched an award
nominated blog. I hardly recognise my timeline on all my social media sites. It’s
packed full of authors, inspirational women, fabulous like-minded people as well as true friends who have supported my mad quest to follow my own path. Who
said I wouldn’t make it?
I know I am really hard on myself but that drives me to keep going.
I know I am a better writer now than when I started three years ago. I am super
proud of the last eleven months. How we have all kept going when people did
their best to knock us off course. I am super proud of my job as a Mum and of
myself for overcoming some pretty high obstacles. Most of all I am super proud of how the boys have embraced our new life and how they have risen to the challenge of making the most of their own talents.
I am not perfect and I know I have a lot of
work to do and a lot to learn but I keep developing. That is what I want for the
three us – to keep developing as a family and as individuals.We’ve all made mistakes – some HUGE ones. We
can’t change that but we can learn from them and grow as a result of them. That is what life is about!
My message to you all this week is :
Be yourself. Don’t be afraid to try, don’t be afraid to
make mistakes and it is OKAY to get things wrong. HAVE A GO! Please, don’t sit
there wishing. You WILL regret it, I’m sure.
Thank you to everyone who voted for my blog. The decision is
now with the judges. I will let you know how we get on but I am truly humbled
by your support.
Have a fabulous week -
If you are lucky enough to have a Christmas
party, please enjoy it but keep yourself safe.
The first three chapters of Beyond the Past are posted on my website to give
you a taster
I may have to get on my soap box a little this week – well actually, a
lot. A few things have really bugged me this week no more so than
Black Friday! A concept thought up by big business to market their products in
an ‘artificial’ sale, well that’s my definition of it anyway. It frustrates the
hell out of me that the majority of people fall for it, exactly what retailers
are hoping for. I was so embarrassed and to be honest, ashamed of those people
that were willing to fight over televisions and other goods just to grab
themselves a ‘bargain.’ Let’s be frank, retailers could quite easily knock
their prices down and attract more customers all year round, not just playing on
the mad consumerism that Christmas has become. Maybe a step
backwards to look at the bigger picture is required.
This happening, in the same week as Good Morning Britain
launches their meal donation campaign with the food banks and Trussell
Trust, made it even harder to stomach.I find it really repulsive that
normal, hard-working families are forced to use food banks to feed their
families because of the minimum wage and zero hour contracts yet people are fighting over televisions! What is the world coming to?
It’s exactly the same with the NHS. How can the NHS fund
pills that reduce the appetite for drinking alcohol yet can’t fund some cancer
treatments? No-one has a choice with cancer!! The world is turning upside down
and the wrong way round. I have little faith in most political parties and
politicians. There are some really exceptional MPs that fight for their
communities and to make this country a better place BUT the majority of them
are career MPs, using it as a stepping stone for bigger and better things. That
is what we should be addressing. Are we all so blinded by the media and what we
are told is good for us, that collectively we cannot stop all the spin and lies
we are told? We all have a responsibility to take a really good look at
ourselves, our communities, our country and our world. It is so easy to pick
out political scapegoats – immigrants, benefits
cheats - yet we never stand up and actually make the politicians, media or
businesses accountable for their actions. Let’s face it they are the ones that control our lives.
They don’t fool me at all. The
government announced this Weekend £3 billion for the NHS. My first question was
where is it coming from? My second was, if it is there, why wasn’t it being
spent in the first place before we hit crisis point? And my third reaction was
I bet it is not new money at all, it’s just a ploy to make us all think of how
great our government are. YOU DON’T FOOL ME!!!
happened to integrity, dignity, accountability and common decency?
I grew up with Star Wars and absolutely love all the films.
My nickname is R2D2 (all body no legs, apparently!). Isn’t it a great shame
that people tried to make the trailer an issue about race. It never, ever
crossed my mind when I saw the trailer that the storm trooper was black. NOT
ONCE! And why? Because not once I have ever thought any one of us is different,
better or superior! We are all human beings, shouldn’t that be enough?
The biggest lesson I have learned this year is how some
adults behave is truly despicable, yet these people are the one’s teaching our
future generations. I do wonder what sort of world my children’s children will
have by the time they are parents themselves. Let’s hope I have taught my
children enough to use their right as a human being to address the imbalances
in the world.
Now I have that off my chest, I can move forward and pick
the next book project. I have ten to choose from and I thought it would be easy
to pick but I love them all. I have whittled it down to three and I may have to
close my eyes and stick a pin in one of them to choose – I mean in the paper
not my eye!
UK Blog Awards
I am so overwhelmed with the support I have received for
this blog. I’m happy to discuss any topics constructively and your feedback has
been amazing. The closing date for the blog awards is Wednesday 3rd
December. The links are below if you wish to make an old woman very happy (well,
I’m not that old, am I?)