I am a perfectly imperfect author, Mum to two fabulous boys & Meniere's slave. Changing the world in my own way to make it a better place for everyone.
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Sunday, 8 March 2015
International Women's Day ... we can all do IT
I don’t even know where to start with this week’s blog. My
mid-week blog was the most personal one I have done, yet is was by far the most
popular. So how do I top it?
Well, first of all a huge big thank you for all your
support for the boys and me. I wrote it to get the truth out there and stop all
the lies. I love rugby league and the rugby league community. It is an amazing
family to be part of but like all families there are always the few jealous,
vindictive members that want to spoil it for everyone else. These are the
people that should be ashamed of themselves, bringing the fabulous game into
disrepute. Children in junior sport should ALWAYS come first and some adults
should only be allowed in that environment in the hope that they learn from the
ethics of the sport.
Wes is lucky enough to be playing for a truly
professional, family orientated rugby league club. If he makes a successful
career out of it, then it will be a bonus but not the end of the world if he
doesn’t. He has, with my guidance, put himself in a very strong position not
just in the sport, but in his academic success too. He is in the driving seat
and from where I am sitting, in pole position.
Hopefully, one day we won’t need this day. Equality is
about being equal, not superior.This
weekend I watched the BBC film, Pride. The film is set during the 1980s miner’s
strike, a subject very close to my heart. It follows the story of the support,
financial and physical, given to the miners from the Lesbian and Gay community.
It is an incredibly powerful and moving film for me for many reasons. Firstly,
it brought back very strong, deep rooted feelings of injustice and wrongdoing
by the government on ordinary, hardworking communities. Secondly, it showed the
blatant bigotry, prejudice, injustice and inequality of our society. Sadly, my
gut feeling is we have gone backwards in the last five years fuelled by biased
media and phobia driven by and under the excuse of austerity. It saddens me
that I feel I am living in 1980s Britain again.
We shouldn’t need to fight for equality, for the right to
earn a living for a decent, equal pay but we still do have to. Keep fighting!
I despise any person, man or woman that puts people down due
to their own life choices. It says far more about the aggressor’s inability to
accept and embrace diversity and equality. After all, we are all just human
beings renting a space for a short time on this planet. This is how I see all
I celebrate International Women’s Day because I’m proud to
stand up for equality and being a fair human being.
Now I have found my voice and my life, I want to pursue
all of MY ambitions. My next goal is to achieve a PhD then go on to hopefully
become an academic at university. I love research, books, knowledge and
learning new things. I’ve always looked up to academic staff in awe but never
felt I was good enough to be up there with them, even though I reached the last
nine for funding on my first attempt in 2011. The time is now right for me to
have another go. NEVER GIVE UP!
It’s funny but the busier I am, the more I get done. This
is what I’ve been up to this week, in between hospital appointments, rugby training,
home management and all the other things us single parents do.
This is for a competition. It is written, edited and ready
for submission this week. You have to be in it to win it.
OF THE DEPTHS OF DESPAIR
This is a new draft I am working on. I don’t want to give
too much away other than to say this is a mystery/romance and I have fallen in
love with the main characters. Very strong feeling about this one.
BEHIND THE PAINTED SMILE
This is the next crime novel including DCI Fisher,
following on from Beyond the Lies. It is set in Wetherby. Four unexplained
deaths lead to an unexpected psychopathic killer. Watch this space!
As you know this is the sequel to Beyond the Past. I
honestly think I have put myself under too much pressure with this sequel. I’ve
spent too much time worrying about it. There was something missing AND I’ve found it, STARING me in the
face! Well actually, it woke me up in the middle of the night. Now I can now
change the draft, well after the PhD proposal, short story, Mummy duties – I think
you get the idea!
I finally, truly believe I have my life and more
importantly, myself now. I’m ready to kick on and even, hopefully meet my soul
mate. It’s taken forty plus years, two failed relationships and listening to
people telling me ‘not a chance’, ‘you can’t’, ‘you won’t’, ‘you’re an idiot’, ‘know
your place’, for me to realise ‘I can, I will, just watch me…’
The balance of power has shifted and I did that! You can too…